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Next time she asks just tell her you are terribly busy and really can only manage a couple of days over the weekend. If she wants to stay longer then fine, but could she use the B&B for extra nights as you need the evenings to catch up with work.

It’s very sad how money can change some people. I had an amazing friend, she was much older than me…[Read more]

Offer to stay with her instead, taking your two dogs and maybe your horse, plus a good dose of messy real life. I think she’ll soon get the idea that a short visit is more appropriate!

You sound lovely, too kind to tell her what she needs to hear

I think Mary has the nub of it, she’s lonely. I fear, however, that you are not there to entertain her and after six days, I would have been done for murder.

I can manage two nights, max, of anyone, even my best mate who I adore (she’s a show jumper, so happy to do yard stuff) It’s just the whole entertaining thing. I feel I can’t even put on the…[Read more]

IS she lonely? 6 days is a long time to stay.. I’d have a reason ready as to why next time she coudl only stay 3 days.
Also – be aware if she has money you maybe quite jealous even if you don’t want to admit it so extra sensitive about her talking about having nice things – when to her this is just normal.

Guests like turbot go off in three days .
no matter how much you love the people it’s hard work and you can’t just create more time and if you have horses you just can’t make the horses disappear .
You end up tired frazzled and behind on stuff you need to do.
It’s just the way it is.
OP six days is too long next time make sure it’s three nights max .

I think she was being a bad guest – I have a good friend who I go and visit from time to time – I always take flowers and wine, we go out shopping and lunching and I insist on paying for lunch – after all I am getting free bed and board. I help with the cleaning up etc when she cooks for me and when I leave I strip the bed and put the bedding and…[Read more]

Despite having a lovely home to go back to etc….she still stayed longer than intended didn’t she? So she must have been enjoying herself…..perhaps your more relaxed lifestyle is more attractive to her than you think.

You’ve poured your heart out in this post and it’s obvious that you value her friendship, so if she is a good…[Read more]

I wonder if she is still rather in the ‘stunned’ stage of enjoying her new found wealth and doesn’t realise that she is becoming rather insufferable endlessly talking about her money. I can’t believe that she let you pay for lunch at the pub, it should have been her treat for you!
I would tell her straightforwardly, that you would love her to…[Read more]

Thank you for this, after posting I felt guilty about how I felt about her, and a tad disloyal! Oh dear.

Yes I think I WILL have to be specific and not woolly about future arrangements; that was the problem this time I think, plus I know she is dealing with a lot of changing things in her life right now and does look to me as a kind of Guru as it…[Read more]

She sounds insufferable and insensitive tbh.

For someone like this I think you are going to have to be specific about future arrangements ie if she asks to come for a week say you can only spare a couple of days as you have too much on.

If you don’t want her in the house because she is critical suggest that she would be more comfortable in the…[Read more]

I am frankly gobsmacked that she said that your colleague should prescribe for you! We did have a medic who could and did, prescribe for the team, but this was because she was part time with us and part time GP! I do wonder if some of the problem/hostility you are receiving, is in part because you are “in the business”

Thanks guys I’ll give it a try!

I’m going to see what I’m like over the weekend and if I’m not better I’m going to request an appointment with a doctor on Monday.

I asked one of the ENT surgeons at work about it yesterday and he said from what I’m describing it sounds like a inner ear infection and a course of antibiotics should sort me out…[Read more]

My god daughter recently had vertigo (same aymptoms as you describe) and she saw OOH doc as she is a child and he said it was due to an infection, but it an ear infection, a urine infection. She was given some ABs and told to see GP if no improvement but thankfully hers cleared up. I would question the nurse practitioners ability to diagnose, I…[Read more]

The receptionist has no right to insist that you do not see the doctor….next time she does this ask her which medical school she qualified at.

I had similar a few weeks ago…I was actually losing my balance and falling over at one point… and was told it was possibly due to ear crystals! I was given the link to the video below with exercises to help and since I did it I’ve been fine.

Just to warn you though if it is to do with ear crystals then when you turn your head to the side…[Read more]

Two things spring to mind;
1, it really isn’t up to the receptionist to triage appointments. I would speak tot he practice manager about this.
2. a colleague had similar symptoms which got worse over time, until she collapsed at work, was taken straight to A&E where labyrnthitis was diagnosed. I also used to work with someone with Meuniere’s…[Read more]

Thanks for the replies and advice, I’m feeling a bit more positive about it now, just got to get on with it I suppose! It seems like all these young people just get in a car without a care in the world and find it all so easy, and then there’s me getting myself all wound up about it for no reason. I’m generally pretty confident about learning new…[Read more]

Just wanted to wish you luck!

It is nerve wracking and somewhat daunting but the freedom you get after is imeasurable and you’ll be so glad you pushed yourself to do it!

If you can, i’d definitely recommend doing an intensive course to begin with (say 5 days of 2 hours AM and 2 hours PM), you become much more familiar with the vehicle and don’t…[Read more]