How to get my girl power back?

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    • Elbie
      October 6, 2017 at 1:55 pm #214

      ..any tips on how to get it back?

      Last summer I was loving life. I was totally settled, knew where my life was headed and was happy with everything.

      Struggled with winter a little, my parents and I ended up living together again for a few months which really threw me off balance, and whilst I think I’m now pretty happy with life, I just feel fragile?

      Fragile probably isn’t quite the right word, but I definitely have moments of strength and my inner Amazon / Valkyrie / Boudicca comes through, but it seems to disappear as quickly as it arrived..

      Most of the time I just feel pretty flat.

      Any suggestions?? (Please note that finances don’t allow for any adventures! )

    • Jessie
      October 6, 2017 at 1:55 pm #215

      Welcome to the real world.
      Might be worth getting your vit d etc levels checked.

    • Katy
      October 6, 2017 at 1:56 pm #216

      I think the modern pressure and expectation to be fulfilled and happy at all times is a hard one to live up to for most of us. Getting pleasure from the small things imho is a grat way to help you. A quiet cup of tea, a peaceful walk. You’ll get your mojo back.

    • Sar
      October 6, 2017 at 1:56 pm #217

      The naff weather won’t have helped. Can you get a sunshine break – just a few days can really change your outlook. Or do a review each evening, 3 things that happened in the day which you enjoyed. If there aren’t any, then you need to be working on it and maybe lowering expectations for a little while. Mojo often links to sunshine for some people, it’s a very basic requirement. Sending you a girl power restoration hug.

    • Elly
      October 6, 2017 at 1:57 pm #218

      Any idea why you’re feeling the way you are?

      I was feeling a bit meh about a year ago, and then in November the company I work for had an impulsive restructure. I lucked out on it (unusually for me), and all the people I work closely with bar one changed to a fantastic bunch who are brilliant at their jobs. The difference it has made is amazing, I hadn’t really realised how the cumulative effect of lots of slightly annoying and incompetent people around all day had had on me.

      Sending vibes for your girl power anyway

    • Elly
      October 6, 2017 at 1:57 pm #219

      Are you on the pill?

      I was on different versions of it for about five years on and off and recently I’ve come off it for good and my God the difference in the way I feel is incredible.

    • Kelly
      October 6, 2017 at 1:57 pm #220

      Coming off social media for a bit helped me lots – comparison is the thief of joy and all that.

      If you do use it, remember that you’re viewing everyone’s highlights, and not the drudgery that everyday life brings. No-one posts about that stubborn fungal nail infection, or that you’ve eaten a bag of Doritos in your underwear and have guacamole on your chin, or that everyone feels inadequate/sad/lonely/betrayed/jealous/insecure etc. in varying degrees, at some point in their lives.

      It’s ok to be content with the life you have, and not feel utter joy and ‘wow look at my life’ moments. If you’re struggling to find ‘nice’ things in your life enjoyable or even simple pleasures, like a good coffee, a hot shower or lie in with fresh sheets on the bed, then a trip to the GP may be in order.

    • mary
      October 6, 2017 at 2:00 pm #221

      I ate day old donuts whilst running for the bus

      Then scrolled through Instagram on the bus seeing everyone’s protein shakes and smoothies for brekkie.

      But I did manage to get up super early and ride before work so swings in roundabouts.

      I’m feeling like I’ve lost my mojo a bit recently too. A lot of it is to do with work situations but I feel it’s worth persevering in the long run. I thinking of enrolling in an Alpha course. I feel like some in depth, interesting, thought provoking conversations would help stimulate my mojo.

    • Elbie
      October 6, 2017 at 2:00 pm #222

      Thank you everyone x

      There are all sorts of potential factors, and I really do try to appreciate the small things whenever I can. Quite often, if a negative thought comes along, wintry to think of something positive to counteract it or at least change my focus!

      I’m not on the pill, but I do have a mirena coil which could be having an effect..

      Some of it could be that I’m not convinced I’m where I should be – I had hoped to be starting my MSc this year, but due to personal circumstances had to put off my application until next year.

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